Macrobiotic child needs a new home!

[Bruce Paine]

Hi,

A friend of mine and her husband (both long-time macrobiotic practitioners) adopted a young girl many years ago who turned out to have some mental and emotional deficiencies and raised this girl into adulthood.

Living with this young woman has been like riding a roller coaster and not long after her hormones kicked, in did she start getting intimate with boys and soon after, she got pregnant (while still in high school!)

So my friend and her husband have been trying to raise this young woman and her child with the young woman going in and out of macrobiotics often getting involved with men who are not macrobiotic combined with drug and alcohol usage while her adoptive mother has been raising the little boy, now around 5 or seven years old!

My friend, who I like to call Granma, not long ago, fell down and broke her hip and while still recovering, her very hard working husband fell ill and has been very weak and bed-ridden and my friend has needed to often spoon feed him and is finding herself to feel quite overwhelmed now-a-days.

This family is living out in the country and does not have much of a macrobiotic support system and is considering giving up the very active but nice young boy for adoption.

Is there anyone in our macrobiotic community that might have room in their home and heart for a nice little boy, whose grandmother would like to have continue to be raised in a macrobiotic environment?

If you are interested in finding out more about this child and family please inquire with me privately by email.

Thank you, very much.

Be well, be your best, and be blessed!

Bruce Paine

[lovingheart]

hi,
thanks for your efforts to find a room for that little angle,
if i am able i will definitely welcome him in my space, but unfortunately i don't have the facilities and i encourage who have the facilities to help that little boy

[WonderlandAlli]

"Living with this young woman has been like riding a roller coaster and not long after her hormones kicked, in did she start getting intimate with boys and soon after, she got pregnant (while still in high school!)

So my friend and her husband have been trying to raise this young woman and her child with the young woman going in and out of macrobiotics often getting involved with men who are not macrobiotic combined with drug and alcohol usage while her adoptive grandmother has been raising the little boy, now around 5 or seven years old!"

Is it possible this girl could be bi-polar? She should really see a therapist or psychologist. My sister was badly bi-polar with borderline personality disorder and MANY addictions, and it hit hard at the same age. We tried to get her help but she wouldn't take her pills, and ended up saving them up and then using them to take her own life.

Regardless of whether the girl wants to follow macro, regardless of whether she's easy to get along with or not, the child needs to have his mother available to him in his life, and her mental health should be considered.

Did the girl hand over parental rights to "Granma" to make decisions for the boy's behalf? Is adoption the mother or "Granma's" choice? A huge legal battle could ensue if the boy is handed off while Mom's not looking, and she has parental rights.

I'm sorry if this ends up sounding like an attack, but I just have to wonder things like does the girl have any part in raising her child, or has she been enabled for her lifestyle by "Granma" taking care of the child's needs without her? If there's no expectation for a teenage girl to step up and take responsibility, there's no way she's gonna do it on her own in that lifestyle. I try to imagine, what if my sister had had a kid. Would being an active mom have helped her, or would my mother and I ended up taking care of the kid, but in doing so enabling her dangerous lifestyle...

[Klara]

How tragic about your sister. I'm so sorry.

And how eye opening that there's often so much more to one's life than we might realize just with a short few lines. Part of the problem sharing this way, is we may not know the whole story - and so important to realize all the possibilties.

otoh, cannot predict other people's lives and how they "might" respond.

Klara

[WonderlandAlli]

The first time I had read the post I didn't really think about it, but seeing it again I began to realize just how much could be below the surface. If the mother has all her rights, and while she's out partying they send the child to another person's home to live, and don't tell her beforehand and have her agreement, its kidnapping. Even if it was with the best intentions the law sees it as kidnapping. Doing so across state lines I think even makes it a felony.

If the grandma has custody for the sake of dealing with doctors, schools, etc, but the mother still has full visiting rights and such, and the child is removed suddenly and she was not knowing about it, there could also be legal repercussions because it would infringe on her rights she does retain.

If the mother has run off, and the Granma is taking care of a child, the law will vary by state but I imagine in general the mother would have to have been listed as missing and then I'm sure other legal issues would have to be decided on by a judge to grant custody to the Granma due to what would be seen as negligence on the mother's behalf for ditching them all.

There's just so much that is unsaid about the actual situation that could exist, and so many dangers in just moving a child around to someone who doesn't have legal rights to raising him.