[WonderlandAlli]

"Living with this young woman has been like riding a roller coaster and not long after her hormones kicked, in did she start getting intimate with boys and soon after, she got pregnant (while still in high school!)

So my friend and her husband have been trying to raise this young woman and her child with the young woman going in and out of macrobiotics often getting involved with men who are not macrobiotic combined with drug and alcohol usage while her adoptive grandmother has been raising the little boy, now around 5 or seven years old!"

Is it possible this girl could be bi-polar? She should really see a therapist or psychologist. My sister was badly bi-polar with borderline personality disorder and MANY addictions, and it hit hard at the same age. We tried to get her help but she wouldn't take her pills, and ended up saving them up and then using them to take her own life.

Regardless of whether the girl wants to follow macro, regardless of whether she's easy to get along with or not, the child needs to have his mother available to him in his life, and her mental health should be considered.

Did the girl hand over parental rights to "Granma" to make decisions for the boy's behalf? Is adoption the mother or "Granma's" choice? A huge legal battle could ensue if the boy is handed off while Mom's not looking, and she has parental rights.

I'm sorry if this ends up sounding like an attack, but I just have to wonder things like does the girl have any part in raising her child, or has she been enabled for her lifestyle by "Granma" taking care of the child's needs without her? If there's no expectation for a teenage girl to step up and take responsibility, there's no way she's gonna do it on her own in that lifestyle. I try to imagine, what if my sister had had a kid. Would being an active mom have helped her, or would my mother and I ended up taking care of the kid, but in doing so enabling her dangerous lifestyle...