Manymoons,
As always, so thoughtful and deep
And a pleasant surprize, I haven't witnessed that sense of humor - I'll never look at censorship in the same way :>)
I know this answer was meant for wallermc, but it's unsettling for me too. I recognize that for 62 years (well, maybe less, don't know when the awareness began), ok, 52 + years I"ve been trying to solve that conundrum, who is the real me and can I be she?
And all due respect to your wife, but I don't want suffering to be my teacher - trying to put into words my feelings and watching all those smilies to the right of this text, especially the fencing one

the yin and yang fighting, then the rolling head

(I suppose it's laughing but to me it just looks like help, don't know where my head is), then the dancing

which looks like the yin and yang got together and got it figured out - now if that doesn't say it all!! and of course that perplexed one

- ah says sick, well guess we are sick when we aren't balanced
well, that's cute, but cute doesn't really help me much - guess I'll just try to take my own advice and be more balanced in all. Starting with the f word
Klara