[AkiNara]

I'm not sure if this is the right forum to post this in, but it is the most active.

Anyway, I'm in need of advice, and I hope you fellow macros have some ideas for me. Let me describe my situation. I'm 21 years old and still living at home due to disabilty. I have Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy, which has caused my muscles to become very weak, resulting in being wheelchair bound. I also have a life expectancy of 20-25, 30 if I'm really lucky. Out of my best interest I've gone macrobiotic. I've been macro for about five months now, and I feel great. But I need to become strict if I want to heal...

Since my arms are close to unusable at the current time, my father does all of the cooking for me. He's been very supportive of me and I'm truly blessed to have him in m life. But then there's the rest of my family, my sister and mother. They think macro is nonsense and have done next to nothing to support me. But it's mainly my mother that is the problem.

Ever since my childhood, my mother has been what I believe to be an obsessive compulsive cleaner. Vaccuuming the entire house two or three times per weekend, wiping the counters/sink multiple times in one morning, things like that. If there is one crumb or speck of grease on the stove, it's a "mess" and the entire thing needs to be scrubbed down, and the burner covers get put in the dishwasher. She's just really unhealthy, and it effects the whole family.

I know the best solution would be to get her on macro, or at least medication, but she thinks macro is nonsense, and knows for a fact that she doesn't have a fixation, we're just utter slobs that roll around in our filth. She is also a sugar addict, and it makes her VERY easy to anger. We've tried many times to tell her she has a problem, but she's stubborn as anything, and blames her misery on our "messes", and not on her negative mindset and bad diet.

So having her around makes my macrobiotic journey so much more difficult. She absolutely HATES the smell of garlic, daikon, miso, and sesame oil. So if we cook with any of those, it sets off her dreadfully short fuse. If my dad gets even a tiny spot on the stove, again, huge fiasco. She's absolutely ruining me. If I can even get the food I need, her endless nagging ruins my good mood.

I even went as far as telling her all this stuff for the first time yesterday, and she STILL has no compassion for me, STILL won't help, and STILL acts like SHE is the victim.

So as of right now, I don't know what to do. My father hates confrontation, so that woman isn't going anywhere anytime soon. So I'm horribly afraid that staying here just may kill me. So I guess I need to find a more macro friendly environment to live in. But I don't know where, because someone would need to wash me, dress me, get me to the bathroom... I'm just so lost right now, and my time may be running out. Life's too short for this kind of trivial bicering, and I need to get out of here.

I'm really afraid right now. Does anyone know where I can go to get help, or a macro-minded place that would take me in? I really need advice badly. Please help.