Hello Mara,
I am surprised that more people did not respond too, but I did not respond, becuase honestly, I don't know myself any more. I know I use to be, perhaps I am a "recovering romantic." That soudns like a horrible and jaded notion. there was a time when I use to think "I just know that a person is for me becuase it feel so right it has to be mutual" and the acitons seem to be there to support these assumptions, but I was oh so wrong - more than once.
I do agree with you, that this seems to be a spiritual topic, because part of my dillema is related in the very nature of so many belief systems support seem to promote detachment, and wonder at times if the idea of allowing your heart to make all decisions, or guiding your actiosn according to the potental being closer to some one whom you care about so deeply, contradcit the diea of detachemnt. Doesn't it make you too vulnerable to devasting hurt, because I think true romantics are people who perceive of another as their life and source of happiness, and then what happens when those people for whatever reason are no longer there? Granted, I am sure there are some people who followed their heart blindly and had better experiences and I am happy for them, even envious of them (a very bad spiritual state to admit).
